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20160502_163351Family history lives in these yellow blooms and the tightly curled purple buds beyond them. Layers and layers of family and stories. One of the main reasons I love teaching my workshop, Saving Grandpa’s Stories–and Grandma’s too! is because I grew up with stories.

History isn’t only made by people in history books; it’s made by ordinary people living ordinary lives and telling the good parts.

The yellow iris are from my father’s mother, Grandma Sunderland, via Cousin Linda’s garden who got them from Grandma. Grandma Walt, we called her as her husband, our father’s father, was Grandpa Walt. Grandma and Grandpa Walt. That’s how it was. She had a first name but we never called her that; in fact, her first name is my middle name and since Grandma’s name was a secret, my middle name is secret. I never use it, not even the first initial.

We’ve had buckets of rain lately so the garden is voluptuous. Stuff is blooming everywhere. And then it gets sunny and hot and stuff explodes. We’ve had heavy thunderstorms, gloriously noisy affairs. Last night alone we got just short of two inches. I think of Dad, standing at the edge of the yard fence, looking out over the west fields and watching thunderheads form. In the spring, tornadoes were always a possibility, but our homestead on a rise so we could see ten miles in all directions. I hated the thought of having to dive for the old and dank and cobweb strewn cellar if he thought it necessary. But tornadoes prefer flat surfaces and draws to climbing any kind of hill, so tornadoes, as a rule, ran off around the south side and down a draw where they tangled in pasture woods. Dad was a story-teller. Stories were always a good reason to take a break  and lean on a hoe or a tractor tire. One of his favorites was telling about the times he hired Lawrence Welk’s band to play for dances on a wooden platform in the pasture at the end of our lane.

Dad was my father after my first father died. He married a widow with five kids and brought us to the farm. He was short and dark, his lineage Bohemian. And he loved to polka. It has just occurred to me I’m repeating my mother’s story: for my second husband, I married a Polish man about the same height as Dad, who dances a mean polka, whose hair was originally dark, and who tells East Baltimore and Patterson Park stories.

How do we ever make sense of our lives when we’re such a bundle of used-to-be stories?

Along with the iris, which I cut and bring into the house because their heads are so heavy, the rose bushes are loaded, the stems heavy with bloom, and the peonies from Cousin Howard’s yard are covered with heavy, plump buds. There will be peonies a plenty for Memorial Day.

When I moved back here from Santa Fe in 1999, I didn’t know I’d own a house and live in that house long enough for a twelve-foot newly planted willow to reach forty feet. I’ve never lived anywhere this long. When I first came back, Cousin Howard and I would go out to dinner. One of the early times, as we sat across from each other at a hotel dining room table for two next to the window, and we picked up our white cloth napkins and lay them on laps, I looked at Howard, he of the lovely white beard, and said, “We know who you look like, Grandpa Sunderland. You’re one of the oldest cousins, so who do I look like?’

Well. Howard reared back in his chair, eyes wide as if completely astonished at my ignorance, and said, “Why, Grandma Sunderland, of course.”

I hooted laughing. “So Grandpa and Grandma Sunderland are at dinner.”

He grinned wide through his beard and his eyes twinkled just like Grandpa Sunderland’s. “I guess so.”

I had no idea I looked like Grandma Sunderland. I knew I baked bread and biscuits like her and rolled out dough like her. I’ve never been able to duplicate her sugar cookies although I’ve tried. My hands look like hers although she’d had two middle fingers chopped off at the first joint when a young teen by an errant hatchet aiming for a chicken’s neck. I used to bite my nails and I’ve certainly banged up my hands on more than one occasion, but I have all my fingers.

The purple buds among the yellow blooms are from my mother’s father, Grandpa Joe. He tended iris and roses and apple trees and cherry trees and an expansive vegetable garden in our backyard in Barnes, Kansas where we lived from the time I was four to nine. Railroad tracks ran at the back of our long yard. Grandpa was the depot agent. A chicken house with chickens sat at the edge of a ditch before the ditch rose to the tracks. The ground was built up so high for the tracks, evenly spaced and wooden ties-shored tunnels ran under it. We’d stand in the ditch and dare each other to run into the tunnel as the Missouri-Pacific thundered past above our young heads. It probably wasn’t running as fast as we thought, however, because the depot was only about three blocks further on. But those engines, which still belched smoke when I was a kid, were huge and heavy and loud. I remember kids putting pennies on the track but I never did. I worried it would derail Grandpa’s train. And we’d been warned often enough to stay off the tracks. Grandpa Joe also had a special spot in the shade under one tree near the house where coffee grounds got dumped. That was so worms would come and make a colony and my father could find them with only a brief dig to go fishing.

The preacher, Bob, who’d known us forever, told a story about the garden and chickens at my mother’s funeral. He remembered when the chickens got loose and into the garden’s garlic patch, and mother fried up garlic flavored chicken for weeks.

I tried that once with fresh garlic in the flour and pan before cooking. My sons were not impressed. Mom’s garlic chicken is still their story when we’re together. “No garlic chicken!” they say.

Grandpa Joe’s purple iris smelled exactly like grape pop. You can’t find that kind of iris at a nursery. But a farm neighbor I visited one day dug up bags full of tubers for me and now I have Grandpa Joe’s grape-pop purple iris.

Who am I in this trail of flowers and weather and bird song? Life is like writing: the good stuff is in the revision process. I can keep track, more or less, of personal revisions and renewals, but it’s a long list. And now I’ve recreated childhood.

The house we live in looks like Grandpa Joe’s house in Barnes, and if you’d cut it in half, long ways, it would look like the Baltimore row home Cliff grew up in. The metal frame you can sort of see behind the iris is a metal shelf from his mom’s place. Much of our furniture is from that Baltimore row home, which we brought back here after Mom sold the house and moved into a senior’s apartment building.

Cliff tells stories of his brother banging into the Duncan Fife china cupboard corners as he dashed from room to room. We have a small cupboard his grandfather, Dziadz, Polish for grandfather, built. Our home is filled with stories. Every painting, every piece of art, every photograph on our walls (and we have many) comes with a story.

The sky’s been clouding up again as I’ve written, sitting at the wide front upstairs window with a Romare Bearden quote taped to the sill: Artists are like mice. They need old houses where they can roam around and nobody bothers them.

We have that kind of house. The kind of house a child might draw: peaked roof, front door flanked by windows, a tree out front.

Across the bottom of the drawing, I’ll write, Honey, I’m home.



Memorial Day – Kansas

The Law headstone, Vermillion, KS

When your family history is carved onto land, there’s not much left to tell the story. A waterway through a field, planted with tallgrass, sliding down to the gully at the bottom of the hill; rows of terraces crossing the hillside to guide and keep that same rainwater on dry-land farming land: some of the first terraces in Marshall County after the Dust Bowl days. Dust. Dust you can write your name in alongside “WASH ME.” A name that disappears in the next cloud burst. Sometimes the name stays until it’s covered in more dust.

And headstones, scattered across the northern edge of Kansas, one cemetery just across the state line into Nebraska, which bear family names: Law, Sunderland, Moore, Ellis, Brucker.

Law was Grandma Sunderland’s family name although I don’t know much about them except that there were big family gatherings at their last house in Vermillion. My older cousin Howard remembers the family gatherings, kids running all over the place, and Great-grandmother mostly sitting quietly in a back bedroom. By that time in life, somebody else gets to herd the kids.

On all sides my family tree grows from the land, farmers all except for my Grandpa Joe Ellis who left the rocky hillsides farming of Kentucky to come west and learn to be a telegrapher and a depot agent for the Missouri Pacific Railroad.

Grandpa Joe read books and poetry. His wife, Grandma Margaret, wrote poetry, and was a Moore, the daughter of a Kansas pioneer who, the family stories go, was the first while child born west of the Missouri in Jewell County, Kansas.

Grandpa Joe read rather than wrote. His work as a telegrapher meant writing came from sound, the chattering dots that somehow magically converted into letters in his careful handwriting – other people’s words. Someone else at the other end of a telegraph wire collected his chattering dots and made them into words. I remember standing at the edge of his depot desk, rapt as only a five-year-old can me, and watching him receive and send messages.

Law and Ellis and Sunderland and Moore are all English names. They floated like cotton seeds across the land, restless, ranching, farming, searching, pulling up farming roots in one place to move to another farm. The Bruckers are the ones from Bohemia who immigrated together, farmed together, and stayed put. The farm in Kansas, where I often retreat to, belonged to my step-dad, the Brucker who raised us, and his dad. It’s been in family, the Brucker family, for over a hundred years – more like 130 yrs. or so. A Kansas homestead.

The generation above me was educated in that they had finished high school. My step-dad Ralph even had two years at a business college and kept rows of green ledger figures, written in a hand cramped by arthritis, all the years he farmed. My generation was the first to enter college. My sister Judy as first, going to a bible college in South Dakota before marrying, but my younger sister Jeanne not only finished college but went to graduate school at K-State before traveling all over the world in the years when that was what you did. My cousin Linn Sunderland followed her to K-State, but he was one to stay put and farmed with his dad while his dad lived.

I left hight school at seventeen to marry in a rebellious act of running away from home, and I saw the world as an Army wife, not beginning college until 1966 when I closed up the mobile home outside Ft. Carson, Colorado, and drove my two young sons and myself to Hollywood, California as a running-away defiance against war.

The Law headstone stands up tall and white. A big headstone for a farming family with a name written deep to survive years of cloud bursts. Maybe the point of a family that drifts is to plant the cottonseed, let it grow into a shading tree.